How to deal with a controlling or

manipulative spouse or partner

Learn how to heal the wounds of relationship abuse

Tuesday, 10:28 a.m.
From the desk of Dr. Karin Taverniers

Are you in a controlling relationship? Below are some of the principal warning signs:

Your partner:

isolates you from your friends, family and work opportunities
does not tolerate opinions different from his own
constantly belittles you and calls you names
is insensitive to your needs
has a frightening temper
controls your finances
demands constant attention
blackmails you
blames you for everything
intimidates and threatens you
tells you that you are worthless and incompetent
has an extreme sense of entitlement
withholds affection
alternates between emotional distance and extreme closeness
makes you feel like you are “crazy”

while you:

feel helpless in your current relationship
suffer from inexplicable low self-esteem and self-worth
experience feelings of hopelessness and despair
feel like you are walking on eggshells and that you may trigger a violent reaction for no apparent reason at all
feel depressed most of the time and for no apparent reason at all
are emotionally drained
are frustrated by the fact that no one seems to be able to help you.

Manipulation and power abuse may not always be easy to recognize. Control abuse is so deepy ingrained and taken for granted in society that it is often dismissed as nothing more than a mild nuisance.

You may not know you are in a controlling relationship until the signs have become naggingly obvious.

Others may not always recognize the extent of your situation either. The man you are living with may be one person in public and a completely different one in private. He may sometimes be extremely attentive, but in the whisk of a second, become nasty and aggressive.

A “controller” may not always admit he is being manipulative. He may use a variety pretexts in order to “justify” his behavior, such as his deep concern for you, his wanting to give you advice or guidance, his interest in “instructing” you, etc.

I’m Dr. Karin Taverniers, a professional couples and family therapist, with over twenty years of experience helping women in abusive and controlling relationships.

When I first started working with couples, back in the late ’80’s, it struck me how often women would come in with apparent unexplainable depression, feelings of self-blame, low self-esteem, and diminished autonomy and self-confidence.

Not all of them were able to associate their profound discomfort with their troubled relationships, and those who did, wondered what they had done wrong in their marriage, when it was they in fact who were being abused.

Many of them had aimlessly sought help elsewhere, only to end up feeling more frustrated and helpless than before.

I, too, like many, many other couples therapists, in my early years of practice, had not been trained to include the ‘gender abuse lens’ in my work with couples.

It takes two to tango, or so they thought. One side abuses, while the other plays along by accepting the abuse. In that sense, couples therapy often worsened the problem rather than alleviating it.

But it doesn’t have to be this way.

Based on my vast experiences with couples, and years of research for my doctoral dissertation on gender abuse, I’ve laid out a simple and easy to understand book to help you to recognize the dynamics of control abuse in relationships and to take charge of your emotional destiny.

Not only will you encounter how to identify and break the control cycle in a controlling relationship, you’ll also learn:

How to pinpoint the factors and contexts which facilitate power abuse.
Why women are not the “lesser sex”.
That men and women belong to the same planet, not to different ones. Men are not from Mars, and women are not from Venus. They both inhabit the planet Earth and can relate as equals.
That control is not a necessary ingredient for a relationship to work.

For only $24.95 you will discover the tools you need to recover the life you once enjoyed in this easy-to-read, no-filler e-book.

Take six full months to examine this wealth of information and put it to value in your relationship.

Or in any other relationship for that matter: whether it be with your boss, your peers, or even a controlling parent. Once you’ve used these strategies, I’m confident you won’t want to send it back

To order your copy today, click here now!

To your success,

Dr. Karin Taverniers

P.S. Also available in Spanish!